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The Rosie Archives


"This is a mirror site of the original Rosie Archives which are maintained on the Submissive Women Speak Web site. Please visit that site to see additional writings by and information for submissive women."

Who was Rosie?

"Rosie," an on-line personality also known as an36376, posted to the USENET news group alt.sex.bondage (ASB) from approximately 1993 to 1995. She was one of the first submissives in a longterm absolute-power relationship to speak up agressively and persistently about her life of slavery with her master, Donald, and her love of helplessness and lack of control. Rosie's messages met with mixed reactions on ASB. Some loved her witty way with words and her ability to describe things that they also thought and felt; others disliked her aggressive "take no flak from no one" style: they did not think it becoming for a submissive to speak in such a direct and strong way, especially to dominants. Whether they liked her or disliked her, most people reading ASB at that time will admit that she changed the tone of the news group: she helped readers to see absolute power exchange as less of a dirty word and more of a serious alternative to the kinky-swinging, playparty world.

Why collect her messages here?

Rosie was an exceptional writer. Her ability to communicate serious personal experiences and emotions about sadomasochism in an entertaining, witty manner was matchless. Many of the things she was saying four years ago are quite relevant to submissives and dominants attempting to make power relationships work today.

What ever became of Rosie?

Rosie no longer posts to alt.sex.bondage, and there are some good reasons for that. As time went on, reactions to her in the news group became increasingly hostile. Rosie wrote messages that were challenging, difficult, that asked hard questions. Many people became defensive. Many more people felt threatened by her insistent message that extreme power exchange is not only OK but is an essential and necessary life choice for some people. Posting to an increasingly hostile news group is hard, it wears down the best of us, and Rosie eventually gave it up and went on to greener pastures. While we don't exactly know what happened to Rosie, we've heard rumors that she became one hell of a Web-page designer.

The Archives

With Rosie's permission, we have collected some of her best messages and reproduced them here. Each message begins with the original title of the message thread and the approximate date upon which it was posted. Very little editing was done, as we wanted to retain the original flavor of the pieces, typos and all (although, in a few cases, where an irrelevant paragraph or two were snipped, this is indicated with elipses [...]). However, in the change from ASCII text to HTML code, we did notice that most of her angled-bracketed "smiles" and "grins" disappeared. As you read these pieces, try to imagine her laughing and chuckling at herself. We're sure that's how she'd like you to rememeber her.

Rosie wrote a lot of messages. Sorting through them takes time. We'll add messages to this archive as quickly as we can. When new material is added, we'll change the date, below.

Table of Contents

Last Updated November 22, 1996

  1. Sexual and Non-Sexual Dominantion
  2. Ponygirl Fantasies and Realities
  3. Longterm Relationships and Trust
  4. The Observer Effect: How Some People Become Kinky
  5. The Story of Rosie's Relationship
  6. Is D&S Sex or Not?
  7. The Joys of Anal Toys
  8. Rosie on Aging
  9. More on Aging
  10. The Joys of Bad S&M Porn
  11. Some Advantages of Long-Term D&S Relationships
  12. Jealousy of Other Submissives
  13. Rosie's First Humiliation Experience
  14. A Defense of Ageplay Fantasies
  15. Humiliation: In Embarrassing Detail
  16. The Beauty Books: What's Real in Them?
  17. Donald's Porn Collection: A Rosie Exclusive
  18. How to Push Limits
  19. Caning Techniques
  20. Exhibitionism Versus Humiliation
  21. Consensual Nonconsensuality Explored
  22. Can Long-Term Submissives Still Make Decisions?
  23. Looks and Eternal Love
  24. Advantages and Drawbacks of an Ownership Relationship
  25. Wraparounds and Bouncearounds
  26. Rosie Tells It All
  27. The Air of Command
  28. How Doms Understand Subs...and Vice-Versa
  29. When Intense Experiences Don't Work Out
  30. Rosie Tells It All: Part 2
  31. Fat: The Final Definition
  32. Begging and Bastinados
  33. Abuse Flashbacks During S&M
  34. Cyber-Harassment of Submissive Women
  35. Ice is (Not) Nice
  36. More on Abuse Flashbacks During S&M
  37. Doing What You're Told Even When You Hate It
  38. The Importance of Sadmasochism in a Relationship
  39. The Alienating Aspects of Public Play
  40. Talent Versus Submission
  41. Pickle Grabbers! Ooooh! Scary!
  42. Danger Words
  43. Rosie Does Doggerel (and you thought your poetry was bad!)
  44. Sara Adamson's The Slave: Initial Thoughts
  45. Sara Adamson's The Slave: In-Depth Analysis, Part 1
  46. Sara Adamson's The Slave: In-Depth Analysis, Part 2
  47. Finding Other Perverts
  48. Safe Words and Control
  49. The Nature of Absolute Power Exchange
  50. Safe Words Again
  51. The Importance of an Intelligent Dominant
  52. Legally Recognized Power Exchange
  53. The Importance of an Intelligent Dominant - Second Installment
  54. Speaking Out in Subspace
  55. Rosie Contemplates Her Future
  56. Cooperation versus Competition in D&S Relationships
  57. Rivers Running Backward and Other Reversals of Nature
  58. Submissive Quantity Versus Submissive Quality
  59. Why the Earth Circles the Sun (Rivers Running Backward Continuation)
  60. What Dickens Can Teach Submissives

COMING SOON: Rosie on: The Essence of Powerlessness: Being Unable to Escape; Is Rosie Brainwashed?; Power-Exchange as Re-enacting the 50s--NOT; D&S is Sexual, Goddammit!; and much more.

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