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2005-04-02
A top evening
This month was another top evening for T&T in Eindhoven. It was very busy, almost too busy. There were about 70 trans-people. Add to that their partners and the volunteers and you get a total of 100 participants!
I wasn't very much dressed up this time. I kept a low profile in high heels, pantyhose, a short skirt a tight, white top with spaghetti straps and a black jacket. Julia had helped me to do my hair and we got several compliments about that!
No, I didn't wear a bra, nor falsies. I don't need those any more! It is very nice, the hormones are starting to do very good work in my body...
Usually I touch up my makeup in the lady's restroom, but today the lights didn't work properly in there, so I decided to try the room that is reserved for dressing up instead. I was quite amazed how busy it was in there. There were sixteen seats in the room, but almost all of those were occupied.
In this room you can see how the transformation from man to woman takes place. The men enter with a big bag full of clothing and they change into female stuff. Then they put on their makeup and when they leave the room as women, many of them are hardly recognizable!
I had been making publicity for this evening on "De Vlaamse Genderkring", a forum for transgenders in Belgium. And in a private message I had gotten a response from a new member on the forum who wanted to come. She was very uncertain and inexperienced, but she really wanted to experience an evening like this. And she did come. I already met her in the dressing room. She joined me at one of the tables in the bar and she took part in our conversations. But later on I lost sight of her. She did say it was a great experience for her to been out amongst other people in female attire for the very first time. I hope she did have a nice evening.
Another member of "De Vlaamse genderkring" came to me for a chat. She had read my publication on the forum too and she said she understood why there is little response to these 'commercials' I post: There is some aversion to the T&T-evenings because these are attended mostly by transvestites. Apparently transvestites are looked down upon a little. They are still considered 'men who make fools of themselves' in the community. Only 'real' transsexuals seem to count.
I think this is an appalling attitude! It is true transvestites sometimes look like a mess. It is true they sometimes get a sexual kick out of this 'game' of dressing up. It is true the consequences go far less deep for them: On Monday they will simply go to work as men again.
But honestly: We are all to some extent 'transgendered'. I 'started' as a transvestite myself. It is a phase every transsexual goes through. And for many people transvestism is sufficient: They don't feel a need to go any further. I don't see any reason to look down upon these people!
Transgenders are a very small minority in our society already. I think it is a very bad idea to further subdivide this small group of people. Please let's be sensible enough to make use of the few opportunities that are open to us to express ourselves and to get in touch with others who share the same feelings!
And quite a lot of transsexuals do visit the T&T-evenings. We know to find each other and we discuss our experiences. We are all in the same process, but each of us is in a different stage. More than enough reason the visit the T&T-evenings!
Previous T&T-evenings: March, February, January, December, November, October, September, August, July, June, May and April.
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I wasn't very much dressed up this time. I kept a low profile in high heels, pantyhose, a short skirt a tight, white top with spaghetti straps and a black jacket. Julia had helped me to do my hair and we got several compliments about that!
No, I didn't wear a bra, nor falsies. I don't need those any more! It is very nice, the hormones are starting to do very good work in my body...
Usually I touch up my makeup in the lady's restroom, but today the lights didn't work properly in there, so I decided to try the room that is reserved for dressing up instead. I was quite amazed how busy it was in there. There were sixteen seats in the room, but almost all of those were occupied.
In this room you can see how the transformation from man to woman takes place. The men enter with a big bag full of clothing and they change into female stuff. Then they put on their makeup and when they leave the room as women, many of them are hardly recognizable!
I had been making publicity for this evening on "De Vlaamse Genderkring", a forum for transgenders in Belgium. And in a private message I had gotten a response from a new member on the forum who wanted to come. She was very uncertain and inexperienced, but she really wanted to experience an evening like this. And she did come. I already met her in the dressing room. She joined me at one of the tables in the bar and she took part in our conversations. But later on I lost sight of her. She did say it was a great experience for her to been out amongst other people in female attire for the very first time. I hope she did have a nice evening.
Another member of "De Vlaamse genderkring" came to me for a chat. She had read my publication on the forum too and she said she understood why there is little response to these 'commercials' I post: There is some aversion to the T&T-evenings because these are attended mostly by transvestites. Apparently transvestites are looked down upon a little. They are still considered 'men who make fools of themselves' in the community. Only 'real' transsexuals seem to count.
I think this is an appalling attitude! It is true transvestites sometimes look like a mess. It is true they sometimes get a sexual kick out of this 'game' of dressing up. It is true the consequences go far less deep for them: On Monday they will simply go to work as men again.
But honestly: We are all to some extent 'transgendered'. I 'started' as a transvestite myself. It is a phase every transsexual goes through. And for many people transvestism is sufficient: They don't feel a need to go any further. I don't see any reason to look down upon these people!
Transgenders are a very small minority in our society already. I think it is a very bad idea to further subdivide this small group of people. Please let's be sensible enough to make use of the few opportunities that are open to us to express ourselves and to get in touch with others who share the same feelings!
And quite a lot of transsexuals do visit the T&T-evenings. We know to find each other and we discuss our experiences. We are all in the same process, but each of us is in a different stage. More than enough reason the visit the T&T-evenings!
Previous T&T-evenings: March, February, January, December, November, October, September, August, July, June, May and April.
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